International Lover.

“Pussy will be your downfall.” That’s what Tre’s hating, no woman-getting ass told me while casually lounging in my dorm room. You see, I lived off campus all of my undergrad years in college, so I never got that dorm life experience – the close friendships you make while trying to matriculate on the yard. I tried living on campus for a semester when I first got in grad school just to see what the big deal was. Seeing as that I’ve always had youthful looks I fitted right in with all the other kids at the dorm, which is where I met Cephus and Tre’. The relevance of all this back story is from time to time these two undergrads, Cephus and Tre’, would hang in my dorm room because I was one of the only dudes in the dorm that had a clean room and had some wisdom and intellect to share. My dorm room was a makeshift counseling office where I would school these young brothers on the fine art of being an international lover.

Tre’ was fucking up miserably with this girl he had been chasing since they were both freshmen – instead of handling his business and going after her like he had some balls, he chose instead to exchange one mind game after the next with her. Now it’s his senior year and he has nothing to show for wasting four years of his life focused on one girl, and he’s looking for advice from me on what to do – too little too late. I know you want to know how this dude’s life turned out. Well, he never got the girl. He graduated and moved back home with his parents. I tried maintaining contact with him after he graduated. I even offered him an opportunity to work for my sister as a financial planner but he turned down the offer as if he had the skills to land a spot as CEO for Morgan Stanley Dean Witter. But what he couldn’t figure out at the time was his poor wardrobe building skills, poor grammar, and arrogant, conceited, country ass, ghetto demeanor would kill any opportunity for him to land a career - at least not the kind of multi-million dollar career he thought he deserved. As for Cephus, he eventually graduated and had plans to attend grad school at Florida State . I tried maintaining contact with him too but he eventually disappeared off the face of the earth. Now, let’s get down to business.

What exactly is an international lover? More importantly, what does it take to be an international lover? First of all, you have to have an above-the-rim kind of style and personality to pull off this interpersonal feat of romantic expertise. There are many brothers out there that think all they need to be is a thug, a pretty boy, a bad boy or a player. I know there are plenty brothers out there that have gotten their share of females that fall for these particular personality traits. But there’s always that one woman that seems to be out of their reach. For all of those seemingly unobtainable women is where the international lover comes in. A thug lacks the class and hometraining to be successful with the kind of woman an international lover can land. A pretty boy lacks the attention to detail, depth of character, and selflessness necessary to fully captivate the kind of woman an international lover can have. A bad boy lacks the creativity, sense of self, and temperament to fulfill the needs of the kind of woman an international lover has access to. And a player doesn’t have the attention span, attentiveness or patience.

An international lover has all of the appealing traits of a player, a thug, a pretty boy, and a bad boy, and also possesses the character, intellect, vivid imagination, eclectic taste, class, style, ingenuity, and out-of-the-box kind of thinking that will capture all of the senses of that seemingly unapproachable, unobtainable woman. An excellent example of an international lover, albeit limited for the purpose of the film, is the movie ‘Hitch’ Starring Will Smith. Take the scene where he approaches Eva Mendes in the bar scene. Every man on the face of this earth needs to take note of how Smith’s character handles Mendes’ character in this scene. Will doesn’t just approach Eva and throw a line at her. He actually employs his body language while simultaneously reading her body language and subconscious queues about her. By employing his keen sense of paying attention to detail he reads her emotional state and purpose for being in the club, then he simply walks away. It’s a move I’ve used since my sophomore years in college.

You see, as you should already know, we live in a globalized economy. More nationalities of women are appearing in the United States and in greater quantities than at any other time in the history of North America. This broadens a man’s opportunity to expand beyond their natural territory – and you know a brother is going to be curious, so you may as well have the necessary skills to get what you’re looking for. These days many women, particularly, women that live in major metropolitan areas of the U.S. are going to be more pragmatic and non-traditional. They don’t think twice about aggressively going after a man if they determine he is worth their time.

A woman that is confident enough to hang out by herself, as opposed to being surrounded by a horde of female friends, not wear any attention-seeking clothing (dressing for herself not for other people’s approval), and seemingly not want to draw any attention to herself would not want to be bothered by a dude with a conventional means of social interaction. These kinds of women already know they’re unique and beautiful. They already know they’re highly intelligent, desirable, and assertive. They don’t need some dude stepping up to them and telling them the same generic come on lines that they have practically memorized from their countless encounters with other guys with names like “DeMarcus” or “Orlando.”

When you approach these kinds of women and shower them with generic lines that lack creativity and compliments that runneth their cup over, they know you’re only interested in one thing: Ass. You have to capture the senses of these women. You have to give a woman a reason to want to think about you beyond the short time you spent trying to win an audience with her. In order to capture her senses you’re going to have to talk to her not at her. And for that you’re going to have to take some time to study your subject matter.

Step one: Study women on a subconscious level i.e. body language:  Don’t judge on one thing alone. Sitting with your arms crossed is often perceived as a defensive, stand-off posture. But it might also mean you’re freezing cold, you’re having a fat day or just spilt coffee all over your top!

Don’t jump to conclusions, instead look for clusters of behaviour. If someone has their arms crossed and their lips are pursed disapprovingly, it’s a fairly safe bet they are on the defensive. Most body language experts favour the Rule of Four, which means look for at least four signals suggesting the same thing before totally believing it.

Step two: Study the Physiognomy of women: It is believed that the body of a woman consists of 32 parts. As the laws of nature, the temperament and habits of a woman vary from one individual to other and so does the body parts.The beauty of the woman has to be judged on the whole considering all the parts together.Though ‘the beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’ but still as per the rules of physiognomy the different body parts has been defined ideally.  

Step three: Investigate the indigenous cultures of these women of various nationalities. In this step you’re going to have to employ some qualitative tactics in order to get the info you need on these various nationalities. The quickest, easiest and most effective way to learn about females of different nationalities, if you don’t already have access to a multicultral circle of friends,  is on the campus of a college or university that has a diverse body of international students. Most colleges and universities will have an International Student Association (ISA) where you can befriend people from various countries around the world. The best choices to start off with are African, German, and Spanish females. In my experience, women of these nationalities were the most receptive of the other nationalities.

It would be most advantageous to develop friendships with various students of the graduate and undergraduate level of both the male and female persuation. Not only will you develop long lasting relationships with many of these people, you will also learn about the societies where these people originate from. You’ll develop a more worldly state of mind as you learn about their government, politics, interpersonal practices, lifestyles, philosophies, and culture.

Once you gain the multicultural enlightenment you need, thereby, having the eclectic capacity that is necessary to successfully socialize amongst the general populus of various multicultural social circles it is time to get your feet wet and explore the women of the world. Now, don’t think I’m going to drop everything I know about being an international lover in one entry. I’ll revisit this subject at a later time where I can give you the low down on the different relationship characteristics of these fascinating women from around the world in the near future.

Comments

[randi/polemic]

Wow Veangeance I really like your site. Fine women!
Is there a place here where I can put my polemic stuff about racism, emplyoment discrimination in Tokyo etc?

[Justin aka Jpstw]

I like the analytic approach, you opened a whole other learning to me about the Steps you showed, i will study deep into Physiognomy and the Body(Anatomy). Thanks keep it up because i plan on reading everything you post on this site, i really like the viewpoints and expect many comments from me! Peace!